James has been clean and sober for six months. He attends 12-step meetings every day, he walks his children to school, he has returned to his career on a part-time basis, and he has assumed most of his pre-addiction responsibilities. Everyone is happy with him. His wife is astonished at how quickly he was able to get off drugs. His mom and dad wish that they could give him the Medal of Valor for accomplishing what their other adult children have not been able to do: James has gotten off drugs. His kids are happy to have their "old" dad back again, and all is well -- except for one thing: James feels miserable.
PAWS is Discouraging but Normal.
Inside, James is dying. He forgets what he's talking about in mid-sentence, he has almost crippling anxiety and depression, he shakes all the time, and even the simplest tasks feel overwhelming to him. He has also become accident prone and clumsy, has difficulty managing stress, is filled with self pity, and sometimes feels numb. Everyone else is convinced that James is okay, but behind his facade of happiness, James feels out of control.
But James is not cracking up. He has post acute withdrawal syndrome.
What is Post Acute Withdrawal Syndrome?
Post Acute Withdrawal Syndrome (or PAWS) is the brain's adjustment to living without chemicals. During periods of addiction to drugs or alcohol, there is artificial stimulation and disruption of normal brain function. The brain gets used to the drug. Altered brain cells and their functioning take 6 to 18 months to return to normal. PAWS can be moderate to severe.
A Bad Day of PAWS is Better Than a Good Day as an Addict.
Post Acute Withdrawal Symptoms
Forgetfulness
Self-pity
Defensiveness
Difficulty thinking clearly
Accident prone
Denial
Problem with managing stress
Difficulty handling feelings and emotions
Problems sleeping
Compulsive behavior
Over-reacting or feeling numb
Every recovering addict or alcoholic experiences PAWS symptoms -- some more than others. It's important for people in recovery to know that what they are feeling is normal for someone learning to live without drugs or alcohol. It doesn't feel normal, but it is to be expected.
This Too Shall Pass. . .
These things help the person with PAWS:
Don't isolate.
Keep expectations (of self and others) reasonable.
Eat three regular meals a day.
Limit work to 40 hours per week.
Maintain family relationships.
Journal feelings.
Take vitamins.
Regularly attend 12-step groups (NA, AA, CA, etc.).
Post Acute Withdrawal Syndrome (PAWS) -- (This article is about the three major areas that PAWS impacts an individual: Cognitive processes, the emotions, and memory): http://www.interventionctr.com/paws.htm
Do you have a loved one who drinks too much or is addicted to drugs? Are you frustrated because your attempts to help have failed?
If this is you, read on because I will show you how to help your chemically-dependent loved one.
At what Stage of Change is your loved one?
The first thing you must consider in helping a loved one with an alcohol or drug problem is how willing he is to admit he has a problem and how willing he is to go into treatment.
Here are the Stages:
Pre-contemplation: He feels he doesn't have a problem.
Contemplation: Ambivalence towards change. Not considering treatment right now.
Preparation: Planning on entering treatment within the next month.
Action: Actively engaged in treatment.
The video below will tell you more about the Stages of Change:
For a person in the pre-contemplation stage:
It is important for you to validate his lack of readiness to admit that he has a problem. You should reiterate to him that the decision to get help is his, but that he should re-evaluate his current behavior and consequences.
For the person in the contemplation stage:
Clarify that, again, the decision is his, but go over the benefits to his life if he were to stop drinking or get off drugs. Offer treatment options and keep the line of communication open.
The person in the preparation stage:
This person could be actively considering getting help. You can help him to get on a waiting list to a residential treatment program, and let him know that he is capable of doing it. Small steps forward will go a long way at this stage.
The person in the action stage:
The chemically-dependent person is in a recovery program or is attending 12-step meetings and is maintaining his abstinence. You can be his sounding board and reaffirm his ability to succeed.
Info on Addiction and Alcoholism
There are five things that characterize addiction:
1. It is a disease (an involuntary disability).
2. It is often progressive and fatal. (It gets worse with time and you can die from it.)
3. There are adverse consequences. (These can be psychological, physical, occupational, legal, interpersonal, and spiritual.)
4. There is impaired control. (An addict can no longer predict what will occur when he uses.)
5. There is denial. (A delusional system that prevents the user from recognizing reality)
Addiction Always Plays Itself Out in Four Phases:
PHASE ONE:
This is the first use and can only occur once. It moves the person's feelings in a welcome direction, towards the euphoria, and it feels good for most people. They learn how much to take to feel good (the dosage). Because it's pleasant, they move on to Phase Two.
PHASE TWO:
Where the person seeks out the mood swing. He will seek out situations where he can use drugs and experience the mood swing and enjoy it. However, if he is in Phase Two, he will do this within the norms of society. In other words, he will still function in his normal everyday life, and no one will notice any contradictions. Once in awhile he may use drugs to excess, but there is no emotional cost, no remorse over it. He will say things like, "I blew it. It won't happen again." However, for those that have the disease, something occurs that moves them to Phase Three (harmful dependence - where the person exhibits a loss of control.)
PHASE THREE:
At this stage, there is an impairment or a loss of control. The person can no longer predict the outcome of his behavior. It violates his values and causes remorse or emotional pain about what occurred. There are negative feelings that trigger denial (rationalize, minimize, blame), which leads to unresolved emotional pain. A person in denial is literally incapable of realizing that he is addicted. As the disease progresses, Phase Three will occur over and over again. The unresolved emotional pain builds and builds and builds. But the pain is still connected to some wrong done while using drugs. Eventually, the emotional pain becomes chronic. It is there all the time, even when the person is not using drugs. He is angry, resentful, and his self esteem has fallen through the bottom. He says things like, "I'm no damn good" and is sometimes even suicidal.
PHASE FOUR:
Now the chemically-dependent person is covering up the chronic emotional pain, i.e., using drugs or alcohol to feel normal. The negative feelings are present all of the time. The person must use his drug to escape from his pain and try and feel normal. It works, and it can trigger another sequence of more trouble and more loss of control. This is the point where an addict will reach his "bottom," where we can get him into treatment, if we haven't intervened before this time.
Refusal to go into treatment
Many addicts and alcoholics refuse to get help no matter how far they sink in their disease. In this event, the most successful method of help is to have an intervention.
RIP
Staging an intervention
The purpose of an intervention is to present reality to that person in a receivable way. If done correctly, 8 out of 10 people will go into treatment.
There are several parts to an intervention:
Step 1: Gathering the Intervention Team:
Make a list of meaningful persons other than yourself who surround the chemically dependent person.
These could be:
Employer or immediate supervisor
Spouse
Children
The chemically dependent person’s parents
Close friends or neighbors
Coworkers
Member of the clergy
Step 2: Form the intervention team:
People who know something about chemical dependency (or if they don’t, you will have to educate them);
Are willing to risk their relationship with the victim;
Are emotionally adequate to be interveners.
You do not want somebody who is chemically dependent themselves.
They need to know that if they do nothing, the chemically dependent person will die prematurely.
Step 3: Gathering the Data:
Data is information. There are two types of information that you are going to gather:
Type A:
Make written lists of specific incidents or conditions related to the victim’s drinking or drug use that legitimatize your concern.
The lists should have the following: What happened, What I did, How I felt
The lists should give specifics that, should the person not take the help that is offered at the intervention (treatment), specific things that they will be doing to stop enabling the person's addiction, i.e. calling him in sick to work when he has a hangover, giving him money, etc.).
(During the intervention, treatment is offered to the addict/alcoholic.)
Type B:
Find out about treatment options in your area.
What is it that you are going to do with the person if he/she decides to go into treatment? Example: Drive him to treatment facility and help him during admission.
If you have adequate insurance, you are going to have a bed in a really top-notch program;
If there isn’t adequate insurance, you are going to find a program that will take less money or has a sliding scale;
If none of that is an option, then find a 12-step program – The person will attend 30 meetings in 30 days.
Step 4: Rehearsing the Intervention:
Designate a chairperson.
Go over each item on the written lists that team members have prepared.
Determine the order in which team members will read their lists during the intervention.
Choose someone to play the role of the chemically dependent person during the rehearsals.
Determine the responses that team members will make to the chemically dependent person.
Conduct the rehearsal.
Step 5: Finalizing the Details:
Leave nothing to chance.
Where the intervention meeting will be held?
Who is going to get the person there?
Who is going to drive him/her to the hospital?
Where there's breath, there's hope.
No matter where your loved one's chemical dependence has taken him, you can help him to get into treatment. Though the ultimate choice is his, your compassion and assistance could make all the difference in the world.
Intervention - Meet the Interventionists - A & E TV Intervention specialists Jeff VanVonderen, Candy Finningan and Ken Seeley help those suffering from addictions with drug, alcohol and other addiction interventions on A&E TV.
Alcoholics Anonymous Website You will find meetings, literature, and much more about this worldwide, 12-step recovery program.
Cocaine Anonymous
Welcome to Cocaine Anonymous The members of Cocaine Anonymous seek to help others to recover from their addiction. We use the 12 Step Recovery program, and welcome any person who desires to stop using cocaine and any other mind-altering substance.
Welcome to Al-Anon and Alateen Help for the families of alcoholic/addicted loved ones. This is a worldwide organization and 12-step community.
Crystal Meth Anonymous
Crystal Meth Anonymous The Fellowship of Crystal Meth Anonymous works a Twelve Step program of recovery. We have not felt the need to elaborate in great detail a specific CMA approach to the Twelve Steps: too many other excellent outlines already exist for following these
Alcohol abuse in the elderly is often overlooked and undiagnosed. An older person may live alone, apart from his adult children. A son may suspect his parent is developing an alcohol problem because of subtle behavioral changes. But he can't pinpoint, with certainty, that alcohol is the cause. He needs to assess how much alcohol his parent is consuming.
Seniors At Risk
Determine if the older person is a heavy drinker. One drink is equal to 0.5 ounces of distilled spirits, also known as hard liquor; 12 ounces of beer; or 5 ounces of wine. Moderate alcohol use is a maximum of one drink per day. Any amount exceeding that is considered heavy drinking and puts the senior at risk of alcohol-related problems. Women are especially at risk because their bodies do not metabolize alcohol as efficiently as men's bodies do.
The following assessment checklist will give you signs to look for in assessing the extent of an elderly person's alcohol consumption:
Look for a decline in the quality of self-care and missed medical appointments. Other signs of excessive drinking are poorly controlled high blood pressure, erratic results on lab tests and digestive problems. Pay attention to cuts, scrapes and bruises on the senior, frequent falls and trips to the Emergency Room. Be aware that Isolation and avoidance of family members is a sign of heavy drinking. Unanticipated confusion and disorientation while in the hospital is a sign of alcohol withdrawal.
Combining Alcohol with Medications
Visit the older person frequently, and mentally note changes in behavior and health that correspond to those on your assessment checklist. If possible, look for empty liquor bottles and beer cans in trash cans at the senior's residence. Ascertain, if you can, what medications the older person is taking, i.e., anxiety and pain medications. A senior may not realize that certain medications cannot be safely combined with alcohol. A glass of wine with a tranquilizer can be fatal.
After your visit, log your observations in a notebook, and record the date and time. If an alcohol problem is present, it should become obvious in your log. It may even form a pattern of being worse some days than others. If the elderly person's health and behavior indicate that alcohol may be a problem, try talking it over in a nonaccusing way with him. Alcohol abuse to many seniors is typified by derelicts on skid row and other down-and-outs -- not them.
Family Support is Strategic
If you determine that an older person's drinking is becoming dangerous, and you have unsuccessfully broached the subject with him, contact his physician and other family members to get them involved. The family can meet with the physician and come up with strategies to help the senior either cut down on his alcohol consumption or quit drinking altogether.
Unless you die of an overdose, you don't have to talk about your addiction or your recovery from addiction. Well, if you're dead, you won't be the one doing the talking anyway, but everyone else will!
What motivated this rant was an actress on a talk show I watched last night. With every topic of discussion, she tossed her drug recovery into the ring. It was annoying to hear this on a comedy talk show because addiction is not funny.
When celebs "broadcast" in a discussion about their taking drugs and their recovery from drugs, it sets up a precident for everyone who has ever had a problem with drugs or alcohol. This is not to shortchange the work of many celebrities and regular folks in overcoming their addiction problems. There is nothing harder to pull off than to recover from addiction. Anyone who succeeds is a giant in my eyes.
If a recovering addict wants to talk about his addiction, that is his prerogative, and I wish him the best. I'm not saying that he is wrong to talk about his recovery -- even online. But, sometimes in their enthusiasm to help others, recovering addicts share dark secrets about their drug pasts that are just as well left unsaid.
An addict in recovery should be known as a really nice guy, or a great actor, or a generous philanthropist -- not as an addict. People are so much more than their addictions -- they are moms and dads and co-workers and valued friends. Why tarnish their image? Not everyone shares my positive views on addicts who have overcome the disease of addiction. In fact, many people (like potential employers) are downright mean spirited about it.
Just something to think about. Addiction is ugly and deadly -- and there is nothing (and I mean nothing) funny about it.